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How to Really Believe You Can Have and Do the Things You Want

What are the things you truly wish you could do or have in your life? Not extreme flights of fancy, like become a King or Queen, but positive things that keep coming up like finding true love, going back to school, or owning your own business. Things you truly desire, but just don’t believe you can attain.

As a former princess of positivity in what was an otherwise difficult corporate work environment, I’m still a huge proponent of the idea that a high level of belief in what you can do, coupled with energy and focus, is a powerful combination for getting what you want.

Positive Thinking and Feeling

If you think you can’t have the good things you want in your life, you never will; limited thinking is more toxic to your dreams than smoking or sitting. Start by thinking about the things you want and imagine what your life will feel like once you have them. The more detailed the image you create, and the more you can truly feel the positive impact it will make, the more powerful the energy you will produce and use towards making your wishes a reality.  

Don’t feel like you need to know exactly how to get what you want, to begin believing that you can, and start moving toward it. Allow your mind to focus on the end result and watch as solutions come to you, as the path you’ll need to take begins to reveal itself.

Positivity and Daydreaming are Good, Unbridled Optimism is Better

Optimism takes your positivity a step further by adding your confidence in a successful outcome. Optimistic people are more likely to do the work that needs to be done to attain their goals. Gabriele Oettingen, a professor of psychology at New York University, succinctly said, “High optimism will predict high effort and success.” The message seems pretty simple and clear. Do the work, expect that it will pay off, and it will.

The Universe is a Field of Energy, Everything is Linked Together, and You Can Attract What You Want

Yes, I went there. These concepts might be a stretch for some, but there are plenty of books, blogs, and some science to back these up. My first real exposure to these ideas came from Deepak Chopra’s book, The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire: Harnessing the Infinite Power of Coincidence. It was my epiphanal self-help book and came at a time in my life when I knew that I wanted more for myself.

I was coming to terms with the fact that I needed to shake things up and make significant changes when his book, and specifically the title, caught my eye. He presented such new, fresh, and advanced concepts and I tore through the book, finishing it within a few days. This was definitely my awakening, and the starting point on the road to the life I now live and love.  

The Law of Attraction

The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that like attracts like, positivity attracts positivity, and negativity attracts negativity. Your positive or negative thoughts and actions can bring positive or negative experiences into your life and have impact. This ties into some of the concepts we’ve already touched on, with some quantum physics thrown in to support the impact of the power of the mind.   

You don’t need to fully understand the Law of Attraction to make changes, attain your goals, or have the life you truly want. I personally use it as a reminder to put as much good out into the world as possible and to pass along positive energy to everyone that I come into contact with, regardless of their disposition. I firmly believe that you get back what you put forth.

Coincidences and Synchronicities – Pay Attention for Direction

Pay attention to the signs you’re being given. Coincidences are defined as occasions when two or more similar things happen at the same time, especially in a way that is unlikely and surprising. Coincidences that are in step with the things you’re drawing into your life are synchronicities and can be powerful messages as to how you should proceed.

Take notice of anything that repeats itself, like songs you hear over and over (sometimes in your head), symbols and pictures, or places you connect with at a heightened level. New people may come into your life to help guide you; they may have done the things you want to do, have advice or support to offer, or may just be a key player in helping you get what you are after.  

Put It Into Practice – What Do You Want in Your Life?

Are you ready for love but you’re afraid you won’t find the right person that thinks, needs, and loves in the same way you do? Admitting you’ve been hurt or disappointed in the past but are ready to try again, knowing that this love can and does exist for you, and actively seeking that love out will open the door for you to find that person.   

Imagine wanting to have your own business and knowing that owning and running it would feed your soul and eventually bring you financial stability but thinking that you could never afford it. If you can believe in the abundance of the universe, and that you are truly deserving of the security and happiness this would bring, you will find the money, the energy, and the support you need to make it happen.  

My Gratitude and Other Books That Might Inspire You

Deepak Chopra’s works came into my life when I was ready for them and I am thankful to have been in the right place to hear his messages and begin to use them. I am grateful to my mom for introducing him to me and having his books in the house along with other great self-help classics like Jonathan Livingston Seagull and I’m OK, You’re OK, two of her favorites. I love their titles and the fact that she was interested in exploring them.

I am also grateful to these authors for their work:   Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting: The Astonishing Power of Feelings, Lynn Grabhorn You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, Jen Sincero

If you want to learn more and self-help books are your thing, or you’re willing to give them a try, start with my suggestions. If not, put into practice the things you’ve read here and move yourself forward toward the life you deserve.